Mark I. Levy, M.D., Faculty
San Francisco Psychoanalytic Institute & Society
December 8, 2004
Holiday Stress Buster Tips: Family Relationships
1. Live in the moment. Don't try to make up for lost time during holiday gatherings.
2. Take time for yourself each day to recharge and be more “present” for others.
3. Provide structure for young children - don't forget their naps. With older children, share holiday plans with them weeks before the big event so they know what to expect. Especially needed for children of divorce.
4. Listen more, talk less. Suppress the need to criticize.
5. Plan ahead-Break up big tasks into small to-do list items.
6. Give yourself extra time to get where you are going, whether it is shopping, partying or simply going to the office. Traffic will be heavier, weather conditions poorer and your stress level will surely rise if you dance with the clock.
Holiday Stress Buster Tips: Shopping
1. Make a budget and stick to it.
2. Leave your parental guilt parked outside the toy store. Teach your kids moderation by demonstrating it with your gift purchasing.
3. Shop online or with catalogs when you can - saves wear and tear and usually money too.
4. Get your exercise by window shopping before you buy.
5. Shop during non-peak hours on weekdays or during dinnertime.
6. Make frequent trips to the car to avoid carrying heavy bundles.
Holiday Stress Buster Tips: Depression
1. Don't be afraid to experiment. This year permit yourself to enjoy new ways of celebrating.
2. Volunteer at a food bank, a shelter or a convalescent hospital: Helping others can be the key to feeling better.
3. Invite to your family holiday celebrations people who live alone or a family that has suffered a recent loss.
4. Don't stay holed up at home. Participate in free events as a way to connect with the community.
5. 'Tis the Season of overeating, overdrinking and overwhelm: Practice moderation - you'll end up having more fun.
6. Keep expectations realistic. Childhood wasn't really as great as you remember it and this year does not have to be the “best ever.” “Good enough” will do just fine!
